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Why the Modern Woman Can’t Let Go—and How to Reclaim What Hyper-Independence Took from You
Feminism gave us a lot. But it didn’t teach us how to let go. We’ve been conditioned to stay in control, override our instincts, and carry it all—no matter the cost. We call it strength, but it’s been draining the life out of us. This post exposes the lies, restores the truths your body has never forgotten, and points the way back through deep surrender and a sisterhood that can hold every part of you.
Whispers Are Circulating. Here’s What’s Really Happening.
Big changes are underway. Slow & Wild is about to seal the doors and go underground. We’re not scaling up—we’re rooting down and closing the container so we can go deeper. No more mass marketing. No more wide open access. Just a tight circle, a clear invitation, and the kind of alchemy that only happens behind closed doors.
Unleash: The Class I Was Afraid to Teach (Until Now)
UNLEASH is about moving like a woman who remembers who the hell she is. Sensual, instinctual, electric. And totally free. We let the erotic energy that’s been locked in our jaws and hips and hearts and bellies finally move.
What No One Tells You About the Rise After the Fall
What if the real work isn’t everything we do to keep from shattering, but the rise and reconstruction after the shatter? In this post, I share a powerful poem that captures what Self-Reclamation actually looks like—not the polished, performative, “show the world how little you need them” version, but the messy, painstaking, true-to-life picture of how it really is. The stuff you have to navigate in your marriage, your parenting, and your relationship with your body as your sense of self is reorganized.
This is the work we do at Slow & Wild Studios and inside Book Dommes—a shame-shattering sisterhood for women done making themselves small, ready to feel safe in their bodies, seen to their core, and fully alive. I’m also giving you a peek behind the scenes into a new training I’m diving into that’s about to deepen everything we explore together—whether through movement, coaching, or our Dirty Vanilla Parties. Ready for what’s next?
Your Marriage, Your Motherhood, Your Sensuality—You Don’t Have to Choose
Most people are terrified of breaking out of the neat little box the world has put them in. They spend their lives fighting their own contradictions, shoving inconvenient truths into the shadows just to maintain a clean, predictable identity.
But here’s the thing: You don’t have to choose. And you definitely don’t have to apologize for NOT CHOOSING.
You are allowed to be a devoted mother AND deeply erotic.
You are allowed to be a grounded, responsible, nurturing wife AND a woman who owns her sensuality unapologetically.
You are allowed to live in your full, integrated truth—even if it makes other people uncomfortable.
Because then, your very existence disrupts the illusion that women must choose.
You weren’t meant to contort yourself into their mold so they could sleep better at night.
You came here to break the mold. And when you outgrow the next one, you’ll shatter that too.
The Invisible Scars of Childhood: Recognizing and Healing the Mother and Father Wound
The wounds we carry from childhood aren’t always obvious—but they shape everything. If you’ve been following my recent posts on family roles and the sibling triggers I met face-to-face in Mexico, you already know how these invisible prisons get built.
Now, let’s talk about what healing really looks like—not just recognizing the wounds, but maturing beyond them. Integrating and making whole the immature masculine and feminine we inherited, so we’re no longer bound to old, toxic patterns and ways of relating. Learning to embody a self-possessed, grounded presence instead of shrinking, lashing out, or seeking approval.
This is the real work of healing—growing into who we were meant to be.
Why We Don’t Feel Our Mother and Father Wounds Until the “Wake-Up” in Adulthood
You don’t feel the Mother or Father Wound right away. As kids, we’re wired for attachment over truth—so we normalize what hurts. We shrink, shape-shift, and internalize the message that love must be earned.
Then adulthood hits. Relationships expose patterns. Shame and worthlessness surface out of nowhere. And suddenly, we’re not just reacting to the present—we’re living out the echoes of childhood wounds we never realized were still running the show.
Why does the pain feel worse now? Because we’re finally awake to it. And that means we can finally heal it.
The Roles We Played to Survive: Family Systems and Emotional Immaturity
The roles we played in childhood weren’t random—they were survival. If you grew up in an emotionally immature family, you likely became The Golden Child, The Scapegoat, The Caretaker, or another role designed to keep the family system intact. The problem is that these roles don’t just disappear in adulthood. They shape how we show up in relationships, at work, and in the mirror. Which role did you play? And more importantly—how do you break free from it?