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A 5-week descent
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Update → Now a 5-week live cohort. Starts 11/19. Entry by a $47 Screening Call. → All seats full. Book call to join waitlist.
Why this expanded version (and why now)
Over the last month, I spoke with woman after woman drawn to this work. The themes were strikingly consistent:
braced bodies from over-managing
living in the masculine by default
self-abandon to keep the peace
numb or mismatched desire (often “duty sex”)
spinning overwhelm
honesty doesn’t feel safe at home; trust is thin
relationships (often hanging by a thread) missing safety + polarity
aching to be held + gotten; done mothering the man they want to desire
I sat with that—and with my own body—and expanded Surrender School so it changes your nervous-system baseline and way of being, not just your mindset. I’d rather delay a release than deliver something that won’t carry you all the way home to yourself. This is the version I can stand behind with my whole spine.
✅ Your nervous system stops bracing by default; softness becomes a baseline, not a performance.
✅ Pleasure and desire come back online; your body starts saying a clean yes and no.
✅ Boundaries hold without hardening; honesty becomes easier than people-pleasing.
✅ Polarity returns—first you cultivate within the kind of Alpha containment that lets you relax and receive… then you draw it to you in your relationship.
✅ Relationship clarity: whether you stay or go, you’ll know the next right step because self-abandonment won’t be an option.
✅ A home practice you can keep forever (breath, movement, sound, and truth-telling on your Sensory Mat Set) that roots you every week.
for real
What this changes
Why I built Surrender School
(THE SHORT VERSION OF MY STORY)
I spent years performing a softer version of myself while my nervous system held a white-knuckle grip underneath.
I could read a room, shape-shift, and keep the peace… but it cost me my desire, my boundaries, and my truth. Becoming a Relational Dominatrix made it unmistakable: the “good girl” pattern wasn’t softness; it was bracing. Hyper-vigilance.
Surrender didn’t happen because I decided to be softer. It happened when my body felt safe enough to open—safe enough with me. I built a practice for that: breath, sound, slow animal movement on a Sensory Mat, myofascial release (on our “Lady Balls”), and clean permission to tell the truth in a safe space.
Over time, softness stopped being a performance and became a baseline. Desire came online. Boundaries held without hardening. Polarity took shape—first inside me, then in my relationship—and everything changed.
(*Relational Dominatrix = creating the conditions—via structure, sensation, and power dynamics—where the body can open.)
You’ve spent your whole life quietly holding it all together.
Now it’s time to be held while you
come
undone.
Melt
Get ready to
A body that’s been gripping for decades doesn’t soften through information.
It melts through the experience of deep safety and unflinching permission—the kind you’ve been craving for years, even if you couldn’t name it.
Underneath all that competence… is a body aching to exhale. A woman tired of carrying it all. A heart that wants to be held—not just admired.
You’ve longed for the kind of power that comes from letting go—but you just keep gripping tighter.
That ends here.
Surrender School is a live, private container—a guided, at-home journey of feminine embodiment, erotic reclamation, and nervous system repair. Over five potent weeks, we melt the Good Girl shell—her hyper-independence, her hyper-vigilance—and reawaken the sensual, instinctual woman underneath.
This isn’t about being more “feminine.” It’s about burning the performance to the ground—and reclaiming the deep, knowing presence beneath it all.
This is where the gripping stops. The Good Girl dies. And you come fully alive.
You stop waiting for permission—and start living from the unapologetic truth of who you are.
OR
Remembers
The body
How I went from control-freak wife to soft, sensual Omega—and saved my marriage in the process
For almost 20 years, there was zero polarity in my marriage. My husband and I were two chiefs—both trying to run the show, constantly butting heads.
We were business partners. Parents. Roommates. Crisis responders.
But passionate lovers? No.
Fantasy fulfillers? Definitely not.
More often than not, he felt like a brother… or worse, a son.
I craved a strong, grounded Alpha presence.
Someone I could relax into and wholeheartedly trust to lead. But I didn’t let myself want that out loud. I was ashamed of that longing. I stuffed it down and told myself to be content.
Meanwhile, our sex life felt obligatory.
My desire was buried so far down, I couldn’t find it.
We argued constantly—especially about parenting. He wanted me to “just submit” more easily… but I couldn’t. My body… couldn’t.
As much as I wanted to surrender, I just didn’t feel safe. And I definitely didn’t feel gotten.
He was rigid. Moody. Dismissive. Prone to gaslighting.
He couldn’t meet me emotionally, and I stopped believing it was even possible.
I felt stuck in a kind of emotional purgatory.
Unsure if staying was self-betrayal—or an act of devotion. There was real love between us—even if it was tangled up with resentment, codependency, and unspoken pain.
We had two kids. Deep friendship. A long history. A family we both cherished that I didn’t want to fracture.
But I was aching. Disembodied. Starving for something that felt true—not just in the bedroom, but in my being.
I wanted to feel alive again.
Not just sexually—but existentially. To explore the parts of me I hadn’t even met yet. To feel turned on by my life, not just my partner. To come home to a truth that made my whole body say yes.
I didn’t just want polarity. I wanted permission—to live undiminished.
Uncensored. Unperformed. Unapologetic.
I’d been compressed by Good Girl Conditioning for so long. Stuffing feelings down. Biting my tongue. Shrinking my needs. Trying to be grateful. Trying not to want more. But the more I erased myself to preserve the harmony, the more the ache grew.
Then—after one of the biggest ruptures in our marriage—I stopped waiting for him to change.
I started changing me.
I began reclaiming my body, my voice, my pleasure, and my power—layer by layer. I delved more deeply into BDSM, tantra, somatics, breathwork, and sensual movement.
I learned to feel again.
To trust my instincts, name my desires, and define and uphold my boundaries.
I gave grief room to swell in my belly. Gave rage the right to roar through my arched spine, clawing hands, and head whips. Let shame rise and fall without a fight.
I gave all of it life inside me—the good, the bad, the beautiful, and the ugly—all of it welcomed on the Sensory Mats I created for the primal, breath-led practice that would later become Slow & Wild.
I rewired my nervous system. Reprogrammed my relationship to surrender. And when there was finally room, joy found her way back home. With it, came clarity. Resolve. Power.
I wasn’t waiting for permission anymore. I was the permission.
That changed everything—in my marriage, in the bedroom, in my being.
I no longer had it in me to self-abandon. Not for love. Not for peace. Not for appearances.
So I stopped. And it turned out… he didn’t want the smaller version of me either.
He felt my shift. Trusted it. Knew I wasn’t bluffing. Knew I wouldn’t tolerate anything less than full truth, full devotion, full partnership.
He felt the choice: meet me in that clarity, or step aside.
He chose to rise.
Not from pressure—but because he wanted to. He saw that this woman—clear, wild, and no longer shrinking—wasn’t just safe to love. She was impossible to look away from. He saw that I wasn’t a risk—I was the invitation he’d been waiting for.
Even hotter than that?
Realizing I didn’t need him to be more Alpha before I could drop into my Omega.
I just needed my own nervous system to feel safe enough to let go.
Surrender isn’t something he gave me.
It was something I claimed—for myself.
But now that I have, he can take me so much deeper into it—and it is my FAVORITE place to go.
As I embody my soft Omega, radiant and loving, it draws him deeper into his Alpha, strong, protective, and trustworthy.
This polarity literally saved us, and it is pure fire.
collapse
Surrender isn’t
It isn’t weakness, defeat, or giving up.
It’s giving in—to her.
The deepest part of you. The one beneath the vigilance—who knows.
Who is already rooted, resourced, and ready to receive. Who doesn’t hustle for belonging or contort for love.
In Surrender School, we stop performing. We stop posturing.
We stop leading from the mind that’s trying to stay safe by staying in control.
And we start listening. To the breath. To the body. To the inner current that’s been whispering all along.
We stop waiting to be chosen. And choose ourselves.
We submit—first and foremost—to Life itself. To what’s real. To what’s right. To the pull that turns us on, guides us home, and doesn’t lie.
That’s when we finally learn what real power feels like.
From there? We can discern who’s worthy of leading us. Who gets to hold us. Who’s earned the right to meet this softness with strength.
That’s the paradox of polarity:
Your submission only becomes sacred when it’s self-sourced.
That’s when you stop tolerating what contracts you—and start choosing what opens you.
You stop mistaking collapse for surrender. Stop giving the best of you to people who haven’t earned it. And start living like your softness is sacred.
Like your turn-on is a compass. Like your body has never been wrong.
Welcome to the descent.
🖤 We’ll imprint surrender into your system so your drop into it becomes second nature.
🖤 You’ll stop fake surrendering, i.e. fawning, freezing, collapsing, or tolerating what doesn’t feel good.
🖤 You’ll give voice to the longings you’ve silenced.
🖤 Feel the desire you’ve downplayed.
🖤 Set the boundaries you once softened.
And you’ll do it all inside a permission field that’s primal, personal, private—and potent.
Time to
Drop in
This is the same training that changed my marriage.
My mothering. My nervous system. My sex. My standards. My strength.
And I want it in your body next.
This is where the descent becomes devotion. Where turn-on becomes clarity. And where your softness becomes a throne—not a threat.
This is what I built so no woman has to go through it alone. This is what I created so we can melt, remember, and rise together.
Picture it with me for a moment.
You’re standing in the after.
Your voice rich and strong, your eyes so present, your body soft and open, your energy clear and grounded.
You’re on your knees with joy, not grief.
And you’re handing other women the map.
First, it’s your turn.
Welcome to Surrender School.
Here’s What’s Inside
(NOW EXPANDED)
☑️ $300 Sensory Mat Set — shipped to your door (U.S. shipping included)
Six circular feet of sacred ground. This set turns your home into a sanctuary of reclamation. Grief, rage, joy, shame, pleasure, desire—it all happens here. You’ll get the sturdy foundation mat (for dynamic/sensual flows) and a plush sensory topper made of faux rabbit fur.
→ Results: your home becomes your studio; consistency becomes second nature.
☑️ 4 Live Wednesdays (2 hours each, on Zoom)
Wednesdays 7–9pm ET — Nov 19 | Dec 3 | Dec 10 | Dec 17. Thanksgiving week is on-demand only so your system can integrate as you spend time with loved ones. Live, immersive, and recorded—replays posted within 48 hours. Camera optional; Omega name (pseudonym) welcome.
→ Results: real-time coaching, shared regulation in community, and momentum you can feel.
☑️ Weekly on-demand modules (short, repeatable pieces you can return to)
Guided micro-lessons in your member hub to deepen the work between live nights.
→ Results: bite-size practices you’ll actually do; steady, compounding change between calls.
☑️ IPF — Inner Polarity Foundations
Get your Inner Alpha and Wild Omega collaborating before we move (this spills into your outer relationships, too).
→ Results: smoother asks, less friction, and clearer, more trusting interactions.
☑️ Permission Practices
Things Unsaid, Bad Girl Protocol, and needs/boundary scripts—so honesty feels safe in your body (and easier than people-pleasing).
→ Results: voice steadies; boundaries start holding; honesty becomes easier than people-pleasing.
☑️ Mirror Work + Parts Work
Resolve inner conflict, calm the spin, make aligned decisions easier; re-parent where your system needs repair.
→ Results: mind quiets; clarity increases; self-trust rebuilds.
☑️ Home Embodiment Practice on the Sensory Mat (multiple times/week)
Breath, sound, slow animal movement; your healing balm and enlivening fuel. Clears Good-Girl conditioning and drops you back into your body, turn-on, and truth.
→ Results: you can downshift on command; presence and sensation return fast; your baseline stays soft between calls.
☑️ Lady Balls work (myofascial + emotional release)
Clears stuck, pent-up energy—releasing the “issues from your tissues”—so what’s been living in the body can finally move.
→ Results: tension and stored charge discharge; breath deepens; muscles finally let go; space returns for sensation and pleasure.
☑️ Self-Pleasure Orientation (optional, off-camera)
A short tutorial using a 3D vulva model that teaches a gentle, repeatable solo practice to fill your own cup weekly—re-awaken sensation, de-shame and fuel desire, and give your nervous system a regulated way to receive.
→ Results: desire returns without pressure; receiving becomes resourced and reliable.
☑️ Private WhatsApp circle
Integration, witnessing, and support between sessions—an extension of the permission-soaked circle doing this work right alongside you.
→ Results: you’re held between calls; questions don’t pile up; follow-through stays steady.
Paste-ready replacements for the remaining four:
☑️ Replays of every session
If you miss a live session or want to revisit, each call’s replay is posted inside your member hub within 48 hours.
→ Results: you stay current on your schedule; key moments are easy to review.
☑️ 1:1 Integration Call with Kris (45 minutes)
Scheduled during the arc for precision support and a tailored plan for what your system needs next.
→ Results: stuck points resolve faster; next steps feel clear and doable.
☑️ Beta access to the full digital course (2026)
First access to the self-paced Surrender School when it launches—extended modules on polarity, the mother wound, and more.
→ Results: keep the work alive after the cohort; deepen specific threads at your pace.
☑️ First invitation to Alpha Academy
Private access (nearly half the public price) to the companion training—for the man/partner you love, or for your own leadership.
→ Results: polarity strengthens in real life; your surrender is met—or your leadership steadies.
who it's for
Surrender School is for the woman who:
✔ Has done the therapy, read the books, taken the courses—and still feels stuck in her body and relationships
✔ Feels safe in control, but starved for softness, turn-on, and true connection
✔ Is tired of being the strong one, the leader, the one who has it all together
✔ Wants to melt into the deepest kind of feminine trust—but without losing herself
✔ Longs to experience devotion, polarity, erotic power, and safety… all in the same breath
✔ Doesn’t want to wait for life to force a breakdown—she’s ready to initiate her own descent and reclamation
It’s NOT for the woman who:
🄧 Wants a quick fix or intellectual framework without embodiment
🄧 Isn’t willing to feel, be witnessed, or sit with the edges of her resistance
🄧 Is still outsourcing her happiness, safety, or sovereignty to someone else
🄧 Isn’t ready to be honest with herself (yet)
(and not for)
Limited to 7 women (0 seats left, but book to join waitlist)
what
I haven’t been this content to just be myself in years. I feel like my body has changed. Even though the bikinis are the same. So what really changed is my relationship to my body. And how happy and grateful I am to inhabit it and just be myself. Be my home.
If there’s a part of you curious or yearning to check out Slow & Wild, please honor yourself and come join Kris and us on her Sensory Mats. Her work and guidance will lead you home to yourself. You just have to choose to show up.
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Deb
I felt myself reconnect with a ferocity and a sexuality and sensuality that I've been disconnected from. (…) Kris has created an incredible place for the deconstruction of good girl conditioning and all the icky things the culture has taught us about how our body needs to look so that we can rediscover our power and what makes us come ALIVE.
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Olivia
I loved getting slow and wild with an intimate group of women in a safe space where I could get in touch with my playful and sexy side, feel bold and beautiful, and connect with myself in the mirror.
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Every woman who wants to feel more alive, more radiant, more at peace with herself, more turned on should absolutely give Slow and Wild a try!
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Rachel
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Investment
YOUR INVITATION TO BEGIN (WITH $47 SCREENING CALL)
Limited to 7 women (→ 0 seats left→ join waitlist).
To begin, book a short $47 Screening Call (15–30 min) with me. This is how we both feel into fit—your questions, your pace, no pressure. If it’s a YES for both of us, your $47 applies to tuition; if not, I refund it within 24 hours.
Intake is built into booking.
You’ll complete a short Intake Form inside the scheduling flow.
Investment:
$997 pay-in-full or $357 × 3 (monthly)
See “Here’s what’s inside” above for full program details.
yes
THIS IS WHERE YOU SAY
—and start the descent. Book your Screening Call below.
FAQs
A’s for your Q’s all day, bae.
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A: Entry is by a short $47 Screening Call so we can both feel into fit. If it’s a YES for both of us, your $47 applies to tuition. If not, it’s refunded within 24 hours—clean and pressure-free.
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A: Yes—and it’s built into the booking flow for your Screening Call (takes ~3 minutes). No extra emails to track.
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A: Wednesdays 7–9pm ET — Nov 19 | Dec 3 | Dec 10 | Dec 17. Thanksgiving week is on-demand only so your system can integrate while you spend time with loved ones.
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A: Every session is recorded; replays are posted in your member hub within 48 hours so you can watch (and rewatch) on your schedule.
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A: 2 hours for the live call, plus 20–35 minutes, 2–3×/week for guided micro-lessons and your mat ritual.
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A: A five-week arc with 4 live Wednesdays, short weekly on-demand pieces, a private WhatsApp circle, one 45-min 1:1 integration call, and a $300 Sensory Mat Set shipped to you (U.S. included).
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A: Yes—two pairs of “Lady Balls” (myofascial release tools), about $57 total. Links are provided after enrollment.
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A: Yes. The mat is part of the method and included with tuition. It turns your home into a consistent anchor where your nervous system learns safety and softness.
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A: Comfy layers you can move and breathe in (yoga/pole/lingerie/swimsuit all work). This is about sensation over performance—choose what feels good on your skin.
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A: A private area large enough for a 6-ft round mat, where you won’t be interrupted or overheard. Low lighting + headphones are great if you share a home.
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A: Camera optional. Name optional (Omega name/pseudonym welcome). I record my teaching so you can replay—and so future students can learn. Say “pause” anytime to go off-record. You also have a 7-day edit window to request a trim via hello@slowandwildstudios.com (include session date + timestamp).
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A: I use structure, sensation, and power dynamics to create the conditions where the body can downshift, feel, and open. In private work, I am the container and the permission field; in Surrender School, I teach you how to build self-sourced safety—which is the foundation that makes softness possible.
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A: Surrender School is BDSM-informed, not a BDSM play space. We borrow fundamentals—consent, negotiation, power dynamics, sensation, and structure—to create a clear, safe container for our somatic practice. We use breath, sound, slow animal movement, and myofascial release (“Lady Balls”) to help your system downshift and open.
For clarity: BDSM traditionally stands for Bondage & Discipline; Dominance & Submission; Sadism & Masochism. I draw from it because it’s a powerful nervous-system hack: the right mix of structure and sensation can repattern how your system experiences itself, moving what’s stuck and restoring real presence and choice. That’s why more therapists collaborate with skilled BDSM practitioners as a complement to talk therapy.
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Consent + negotiation = safety. The scene framework mirrors therapeutic contracting: explicit boundaries, safe words, and ongoing check-ins.
Titrated sensation. Carefully dosed intensity lets the nervous system activate and then downshift, building capacity without overwhelm.
Agency in power. Choosing when/how to lead or surrender creates corrective experiences around control, trust, and repair.
Works through the body (not just talk). Breath, sensation, and movement encode change when words alone haven’t shifted patterns.
Aftercare = integration. Co-regulation and debrief help encode the new pattern instead of re-entrenching the old one.
Shame reduction. Naming desire inside a consent-first container de-pathologizes it, which softens defenses and opens choice.
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A: Surrender School students receive a private link to add Alpha Academy near Valentine’s for $597 (public $997). It’s the counterpart training that makes surrender feel safe—for your partner, or for your own Alpha leadership.
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A: Zoom on a stable connection. If Wi-Fi is spotty, use a wired connection or hotspot. Replays live in your member hub.
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A: U.S. shipping is included. International options are available by request (additional fee). Sales tax may apply based on your location and the mat’s retail value.
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A: After enrollment, tuition is non-refundable and non-transferable due to the intimate, limited-capacity nature of the container. (The $47 is applied if invited, or refunded within 24 hours if it’s not your round.)
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A: This cohort centers women’s embodied experience. If you identify with that experience and this work resonates, you’re welcome. If you’re unsure, email us—we’ll feel into fit together.
