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Starts mid-late Sept., once all 7 women have been hand-selected | 7 spots only | Apply today
You’ve spent your whole life quietly holding it all together.
Now it’s time to be held while you
come
undone.
Melt
Get ready to
A body that’s been gripping for decades doesn’t soften through information.
It melts through the experience of deep safety and unflinching permission—the kind you’ve been craving for years, even if you couldn’t name it.
Underneath all that competence… is a body aching to exhale. A woman tired of carrying it all. A heart that wants to be held—not just admired.
You’ve longed for the kind of power that comes from letting go—but you just keep gripping tighter.
That ends here.
Surrender School is a live, private container—a guided, at-home journey of feminine embodiment, erotic reclamation, and nervous system repair. Over three potent weeks, we melt the Good Girl shell—her hyper-independence, her hyper-vigilance—and reawaken the sensual, instinctual woman underneath.
This isn’t about being more “feminine.” It’s about burning the performance to the ground—and reclaiming the deep, knowing presence beneath it all.
This is where the gripping stops. The Good Girl dies. And you come fully alive.
You stop waiting for permission—and start living from the unapologetic truth of who you are.
The body
Remembers
How I went from control-freak wife to soft, sensual Omega—and saved my marriage in the process
For almost 20 years, there was zero polarity in my marriage. My husband and I were two chiefs—both trying to run the show, constantly butting heads.
We were business partners. Parents. Roommates. Crisis responders.
But passionate lovers? No.
Fantasy fulfillers? Definitely not.
More often than not, he felt like a brother… or worse, a son.
I craved a strong, grounded Alpha presence.
Someone I could relax into and wholeheartedly trust to lead. But I didn’t let myself want that out loud. I was ashamed of that longing. I stuffed it down and told myself to be content.
Meanwhile, our sex life felt obligatory.
My desire was buried so far down, I couldn’t find it.
We argued constantly—especially about parenting. He wanted me to “just submit” more easily… but I couldn’t. My body… couldn’t.
As much as I wanted to surrender, I just didn’t feel safe. And I definitely didn’t feel gotten.
He was rigid. Moody. Dismissive. Prone to gaslighting.
He couldn’t meet me emotionally, and I stopped believing it was even possible.
I felt stuck in a kind of emotional purgatory.
Unsure if staying was self-betrayal—or an act of devotion. There was real love between us—even if it was tangled up with resentment, codependency, and unspoken pain.
We had two kids. Deep friendship. A long history. A family we both cherished that I didn’t want to fracture.
But I was aching. Disembodied. Starving for something that felt true—not just in the bedroom, but in my being.
I wanted to feel alive again.
Not just sexually—but existentially. To explore the parts of me I hadn’t even met yet. To feel turned on by my life, not just my partner. To come home to a truth that made my whole body say yes.
I didn’t just want polarity. I wanted permission—to live undiminished.
Uncensored. Unperformed. Unapologetic.
I’d been compressed by Good Girl Conditioning for so long. Stuffing feelings down. Biting my tongue. Shrinking my needs. Trying to be grateful. Trying not to want more. But the more I erased myself to preserve the harmony, the more the ache grew.
Then—after one of the biggest ruptures in our marriage—I stopped waiting for him to change.
I started changing me.
I began reclaiming my body, my voice, my pleasure, and my power—layer by layer. I delved more deeply into BDSM, tantra, somatics, breathwork, and sensual movement.
I learned to feel again.
To trust my instincts, name my desires, and define and uphold my boundaries.
I gave grief room to swell in my belly. Gave rage the right to roar through my arched spine, clawing hands, and head whips. Let shame rise and fall without a fight.
I gave all of it life inside me—the good, the bad, the beautiful, and the ugly—all of it welcomed on the Sensory Mats I created for the primal, breath-led practice that would later become Slow & Wild.
I rewired my nervous system. Reprogrammed my relationship to surrender. And when there was finally room, joy found her way back home. With it, came clarity. Resolve. Power.
I wasn’t waiting for permission anymore. I was the permission.
That changed everything—in my marriage, in the bedroom, in my being.
I no longer had it in me to self-abandon. Not for love. Not for peace. Not for appearances.
So I stopped. And it turned out… he didn’t want the smaller version of me either.
He felt my shift. Trusted it. Knew I wasn’t bluffing. Knew I wouldn’t tolerate anything less than full truth, full devotion, full partnership.
He felt the choice: meet me in that clarity, or step aside.
He chose to rise.
Not from pressure—but because he wanted to. He saw that this woman—clear, wild, and no longer shrinking—wasn’t just safe to love. She was impossible to look away from. He saw that I wasn’t a risk—I was the invitation he’d been waiting for.
Even hotter than that?
Realizing I didn’t need him to be more Alpha before I could drop into my Omega.
I just needed my own nervous system to feel safe enough to let go.
Surrender isn’t something he gave me.
It was something I claimed—for myself.
But now that I have, he can take me so much deeper into it—and it is my FAVORITE place to go.
As I embody my soft Omega, radiant and loving, it draws him deeper into his Alpha, strong, protective, and trustworthy.
This polarity literally saved us, and it is pure fire.
collapse
Surrender isn’t
It isn’t weakness, defeat, or giving up.
It’s giving in—to her.
The deepest part of you. The one beneath the vigilance—who knows.
Who is already rooted, resourced, and ready to receive. Who doesn’t hustle for belonging or contort for love.
In Surrender School, we stop performing. We stop posturing.
We stop leading from the mind that’s trying to stay safe by staying in control.
And we start listening. To the breath. To the body. To the inner current that’s been whispering all along.
We stop waiting to be chosen. And choose ourselves.
We submit—first and foremost—to Life itself. To what’s real. To what’s right. To the pull that turns us on, guides us home, and doesn’t lie.
That’s when we finally learn what real power feels like.
From there? We can discern who’s worthy of leading us. Who gets to hold us. Who’s earned the right to meet this softness with strength.
That’s the paradox of polarity:
Your submission only becomes sacred when it’s self-sourced.
That’s when you stop tolerating what contracts you—
and start choosing what opens you.
You stop mistaking collapse for surrender. Stop giving the best of you to people who haven’t earned it. And start living like your softness is sacred.
Like your turn-on is a compass. Like your body has never been wrong.
Welcome to the descent.
🖤 We’ll imprint surrender into your system so your drop into it becomes second nature.
🖤 You’ll stop fake surrendering, i.e. fawning, freezing, collapsing, or tolerating what doesn’t feel good.
🖤 You’ll give voice to the longings you’ve silenced.
🖤 Feel the desire you’ve downplayed.
🖤 Set the boundaries you once softened.
And you’ll do it all inside a permission field that’s primal, personal, private—and potent.
Time to
Drop in
This is the same training that changed my marriage.
My mothering. My nervous system. My sex. My standards. My strength.
And I want it in your body next.
This is where the descent becomes devotion. Where turn-on becomes clarity. And where your softness becomes a throne—not a threat.
This is what I built so no woman has to go through it alone. This is what I created so we can melt, remember, and rise together.
Picture it with me for a moment.
You’re standing in the after.
Your voice rich and strong, your eyes so present, your body soft and open, your energy clear and grounded.
You’re on your knees with joy, not grief.
And you’re handing other women the map.
First, it’s your turn.
Welcome to Surrender School.
Here’s What’s
included
🖤 $300 Sensory Mat Set—Shipped to Your Door
Six circular feet of sacred ground, this mat set will turn your home into a sanctuary of reclamation. Grief, rage, joy, shame, pleasure, desire. It all happens here. The set includes both the sturdy foundation mat (for dynamic and sensual yoga flows) and a plush sensory topper made of faux rabbit fur.
🖤 3 Live Zoom Sessions
One 90-minute workshop each week, starting mid-Sept. These are live, immersive, and recorded—so you can replay anytime. We’ll move through breath, sound, movement, and truth-telling to melt the Good Girl shell from your system.
🖤 Private WhatsApp Thread
For between-session shares, integration support, and witnessing—an extension of the permission-soaked circle of women doing this work right alongside you.
🖤 Prompts, Practices & Rituals
You’ll receive journaling exercises, meditations, and embodiment rituals to deepen your descent between sessions. These will be delivered after our start date.
🖤 Replays of Every Session
If you can’t attend live—or want to revisit—we’ve got you. All three workshops will be recorded and shared with participants.
🖤 Bonus: 45-Minute Private Coaching Call with Kris
Midway through the program, once your body has begun to unwind and remember, you’ll receive a private link to book your 1:1 session. This call is valued at $375 and included free for Surrender School participants.
🖤 Beta Access to the Full Digital Course (Fall/Winter 2025)
You’ll get free first access to the full self-paced Surrender School course when it launches—featuring extended modules on polarity, the mother wound, eroticism, and more.
🖤 First Invitation to Alpha Academy
For those ready to be met in their surrender, you’ll receive private access (at nearly half the future price) to the Alpha Academy companion training—for the man or partner you love, or the leader you’re becoming.
who it's for
Surrender School is for the woman who:
✔ Has done the therapy, read the books, taken the courses—and still feels stuck in her body and relationships
✔ Feels safe in control, but starved for softness, turn-on, and true connection
✔ Is tired of being the strong one, the leader, the one who has it all together
✔ Wants to melt into the deepest kind of feminine trust—but without losing herself
✔ Longs to experience devotion, polarity, erotic power, and safety… all in the same breath
✔ Doesn’t want to wait for life to force a breakdown—she’s ready to initiate her own descent and reclamation
It’s NOT for the woman who:
🄧 Wants a quick fix or intellectual framework without embodiment
🄧 Isn’t willing to feel, be witnessed, or sit with the edges of her resistance
🄧 Is still outsourcing her happiness, safety, or sovereignty to someone else
🄧 Isn’t ready to be honest with herself (yet)
(and not for)
Only 7 3 spots available
what
I haven’t been this content to just be myself in years. I feel like my body has changed. Even though the bikinis are the same. So what really changed is my relationship to my body. And how happy and grateful I am to inhabit it and just be myself. Be my home.
If there’s a part of you curious or yearning to check out Slow & Wild, please honor yourself and come join Kris and us on her Sensory Mats. Her work and guidance will lead you home to yourself. You just have to choose to show up.
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saying
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Deb
I felt myself reconnect with a ferocity and a sexuality and sensuality that I've been disconnected from. (…) Kris has created an incredible place for the deconstruction of good girl conditioning and all the icky things the culture has taught us about how our body needs to look so that we can rediscover our power and what makes us come ALIVE.
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Olivia
I loved getting slow and wild with an intimate group of women in a safe space where I could get in touch with my playful and sexy side, feel bold and beautiful, and connect with myself in the mirror.
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Kim
Every woman who wants to feel more alive, more radiant, more at peace with herself, more turned on should absolutely give Slow and Wild a try!
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Rachel
Only 7 women will be part of this private round of Surrender School.
To start the process, you’ll place a refundable $100 deposit to book a 30-minute private screening call with me.
This call is how we’ll both feel into alignment. It gives you space to ask your questions, and gives me a window into who’s ready for the depth this container holds. Integrity is everything here—and it starts before you ever step inside.
If it’s a YES for both of us, your deposit goes toward your tuition. If not, it’s refunded within 24 hours—no pressure, no hard feelings.
Your Invitation to Begin (with Deposit Details)
💸 Total Tuition: $697
Your tuition includes a 3-week immersive experience, a $300 Sensory Mat Set (yours to keep), a $375 bonus 1:1 coaching session, and lifetime access to the future Surrender School digital course.
This is where you say yes—and start the descent.
*Check your email after booking your call. You’ll have an Intake Form to complete and submit.
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A: If we decide together on your screening call that we do NOT have a fit at this time, your deposit will be immediately refunded to you.
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A: That’s okay. Every session is recorded and shared, so you can watch (and rewatch) on your own time. You’ll still receive all the prompts, rituals, and WhatsApp support in between.
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A: When you register, you’ll be asked to list your most convenient time slots (M/W/F weeknights at 6PM, for instance). We’ll schedule the sessions after we have our 7 women enrolled, everyone has weighed in, and received their Sensory Mats. Estimated to start mid-late Sept., 2025.
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A: Aside from the weekly 90-minute live session, most of the integration practices are brief and potent. Expect to spend 15–30 minutes a 1-2 few times per week—sometimes just sitting, lying, or moving slowly on your mat, letting yourself feel.
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A: Perfect. That means you haven’t already learned to perform it. This work isn’t about doing it “right.” It’s about coming as you are. Whether you’re brand new to embodiment or deep into your journey, you’ll be met and witnessed in all of it.
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A: Clothes that let your body breathe and move. Think: yoga pants, sports bra, comfy layers you can strip off if things get warm. No need to look “cute.” This is about freedom, not performance. That said, it does feel delicious to wear some skin against the Sensory Mat. Pole attire, lingerie, and swimsuits work great for “coming to your senses”. Up to you! You really can’t get it wrong as long as you’re comfortable.
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A: A private space (large enough for your 6-ft round Sensory Mat) where you won’t be interrupted or overheard. You’ll be lying down, moving, breathing, possibly crying or moaning—so treat this like sacred solo time. Bonus points for low lighting, cozy vibes, and a door you can close. Worst case scenario, if you’re REALLY short on space, you can put your Sensory Mat ON your bed.
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A: Between our live sessions, the WhatsApp thread becomes a private space to share, ask questions, integrate, and be witnessed by the circle. You can say as much or as little as you like. There are no requirements—just a permission field.
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A: It’s highly encouraged. These mats aren’t just accessories—they’re part of the method. Not using one is like trying to take a pole dancing class without the pole. You’ll be amazed what happens when your body starts associating one specific space with softness, safety, and truth. It becomes an anchor point for your nervous system, long after the course ends. And when Slow & Wild Virtual launches soon, you’ll already be set!
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A: You’ll have lifetime access to the replays and be invited into Alpha Academy (the optional companion training for those ready to deepen with their Alpha partner OR step up and lead themselves, penetrating with clean power).
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A: A Relational Dominatrix, or Domina, uses structure, sensation, power dynamics, and somatic attunement to help individuals and couples move what’s been stuck and deepen their capacity for connection, pleasure, and full aliveness. The work is never about control for its own sake—it’s about creating the conditions for nervous system repair, polarity restoration, and embodied truth.
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A: Great question. What we’re pointing to in Surrender School is the prequel to that.
It’s the submission before the scene. It’s not about handing your power over—it’s about reclaiming the power to choose. To say: “I’m no longer in a war with myself. I know what I want. And I can feel who’s safe to trust with it.”
That’s what we mean by self-sourced submission. Not submission instead of relational surrender—but as the origin point of it.
Because if your submission isn’t sourced from within—if it’s just appeasement, fear, or performance—it’s not sacred, clean, or true.
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A: We pull from BDSM fundamentals, yes—but this isn’t about whips and chains. I’m a Relational Dominatrix, which means I work with power dynamics, structure, and sensation to create polarity and charge. First, internally—between your own inner Alpha and Omega. Then, as your system rewires, your clarity and skill in working with these two opposing energies naturally begins to ripple outward and translate into your relationships.
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A: Late Fall/Winter 2025. Surrender School participants will be the first to gain access, and for nearly half the future price others will pay.
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A: Just two optional massage ball sets we affectionately call Lady Balls. Trust us—you’ll want them. Total cost is around $58 for both on Amazon. You’ll get the exact purchase links in your confirmation email.
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A: Yes. This is a live Zoom experience, so a solid connection is essential. If your Wi-Fi is spotty, consider using a wired connection or hotspot.
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A: No. Due to the intimate nature of this work and the limited capacity of the container, all sales are final and non-transferable. Please purchase when your body is a solid YES.
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A: Yes. Any human who identifies as a woman is welcome to enroll in Surrender School. This space is designed to support all women in their descent into embodied truth, regardless of assigned sex at birth.
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A: Shipping is included in your enrollment. You will, however, see a small tax charge at checkout, based on the retail value of the Sensory Mat Set. That tax goes straight to the state, not to us.
FAQs
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